1. ‘Nobody’s story about you is ever about you.’
We are who we believe ourselves to be. Worrying about what other people think of us distracts us from this essential truth. Anything that people come up with about us is either based upon information we give them, or information they make up on their own.
So, it’s up to you. Do you want people to perceive you as callous, neurotic and self-serving? Or do you want to be seen as intuitive, loving, and sincere? Nurture the qualities you want others to see in you. When you genuinely act in a way that you’re aligned with, those who are real will recognize that, and those who are judgmental and insecure will make up their own story. Those people aren’t worth keeping around anyway. When you know who you are, that’s all you need to know.
2. “Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.”
It’s always easy to look at how good others have it, but how about looking at how good we have it in our own lives. Fear of the unknown and desire for things we don’t have (ie a house, a partner, a dream job) pull us away from the beauty of now. While fear leans into the last safe moment, desire leans forward to the next possibility of satisfaction. These both distract us from what we have now.
How can you develop more presence? One of the best ways to reduce fear and desire is to consider what you have in this moment that’s really good, and to recognize all the beauty that already exists. Remember that things like your education and access to clean water are not a given in everyone’s life, and that your path is your own to make the most of. By developing this mindset, you experience more happiness, wisdom, and love every day.
3. ‘It is not up to us what we learn, but only whether we learn through joy or through pain.’
Do you move through conflict with stress and anxiety, or do you seek to resolve difficult situations quickly and with grace?
There is no way to predict what will happen in life, all we can do is develop a grounded mindset to process experiences from a calm and balanced place. This way when we’re faced with challenges, we can tap into our best selves to consciously and proactively address the situation at hand. It is up to you what qualities and state of mind you’re nurturing.
4. ‘When we feel like something is being taken away from us, we are merely being forced to see its lack of value.’
Surrender. Accept. Have confidence that there is a plan for you. Do your best on a daily basis, and know that there are certain things you can’t control. When things are tough, breathe, know that nothing lasts forever, and move forward.
5. ‘The universe is intending that you self-actualize, that you be free. As the flower bends towards the sun we bend toward our better selves.’
No matter how hard life may seem, know that the world is not against you. You have the capacity to choose what reality you live in. Do you sink into the pain of your circumstances, or do you see challenges as lessons to grow and learn from? There is a higher intelligence at work at all times, and its up to us to remember that we were put on this planet to be the best versions of ourselves. Tap into that knowledge and go for it.
All quotes by Marianne Williamson and A Course in Miracles
‘Look at your life. Can you call it a blessing? Can you call it a gift, a present of existence? Would you like this life to be given to you again and again?’
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